Things I’d change about my wedding

26 Jul

To answer a question I get asked all the time – Yes, I absolutely loved our wedding but there are a few things I’d change about it if I had my time again.

In hindsight it’s easy to plan it all again in your head and to work out what you would do differently, and while I don’t regret any part of my wedding (have I said I loved it?!) there are some elements that could have been even better.

Get dressed by an expert
I was lucky enough to have a couture gown and my designer even came to my wedding ceremony! She was also kind enough to offer to come to my house and dress me on the morning of our wedding, but I said no as I didn’t feel it was necessary. In hindsight I should have definitely had her there. 

It ended up being quite stressful and rushed and while my mum and bridesmaid tried very hard to get my gown on me it was difficult as they were very worried about damaging it. In the end I completely forgot to put the tulle on under the gown so I had to do it all over again – disaster!

Bride arriving at the wedding ceremony

Society Photography

Choose your side
This seems silly to write about but it really affected me and is more important than you might think. As the wedding car was a tight fit in our driveway I could only get in one side of the car when I was picked up, and it was the wrong side for getting out on the right side at the church. 

As a result I had to move over the back seat of the car when we got to the church and it was really difficult with a big gown and everyone looking at me! I was also very teary at the time so it wasn’t the grandest of entrances.

Wedding band playing guitars

Xsight Photography

Keep entertainment in mind
We were umming and ahhing a lot about what musical entertainment to get. We had a bagpipe player for our entrance to the reception and then ended up with a DJ for the dancing part of the night. 

Even though our DJ was great we wanted a band as we like live music. In hindsight I wish we had trusted our instinct and gone with one. For our reception style it would have been perfect and I think it would have made the party even more fun!

Rhonda and Evan Wedding

Raoul Tackelburg Photography

Styling help
Two years ago when we got married it didn’t seem as popular as today, but I would have loved to have a stylist help us with our wedding. This is the ideal as it depends on your budget but even just some advice with our reception styling would have been great. I think we did a great job but a stylist would have taken it to the next level.

Rhonda and Evan Wedding leaving reception

Raoul Tackelburg Photography

Make the most of your flowers
We went for minimal flowers – bouquets for myself and our bridesmaid, buttonholes for the guys and our parents, and candles with scattered rose petals on the reception tables. We used roses which were wonderful, and perfect for our winter wedding, but I now wish we had used more of them. 

Flowers are so beautiful and add a lovely touch to the overall theme of your wedding. I loved what we had but just wanted more! I should have listened to my florist.

I’m being picky with my pointers above but that’s because they were the only things I’d change. It was a beautiful day and so much fun – I wish we could do it all over again.

If you’ve already been married what would you change about your wedding? And if you’re about to get married what are you most worried about?

And here’s some more tips for your wedding day – Ten wedding unavoidables you need to know about.

I hope your wedding is just perfect!

Rhonda :)

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6 Responses to “Things I’d change about my wedding”

  1. Muzz July 26, 2012 at 6:24 pm #

    I’m worried about the reception decorations & how much I need to spend on flowers. Like you, I don’t want to spend too much, but I know from looking at pictures of other receptions that flowers really do make a difference.
    I’m getting married in Hawaii so I guess there’ll be alot of flowers for me to choose from!

    • Jennifer Reid July 27, 2012 at 12:00 pm #

      Hi Muzz, I’m in exactly the same boat as you. Absolutely love the photos with huge bouquets of flowers on every table but just not sure of the cost. I have even asked florists for a bit of guidance and all I get back is… I can’t help you until you bring me photos of what you want! What if I find photos and fall in love then find out it’s totally out of the budget or the flowers are out of season?? ARGH! :(

      • ModernWeddingBlog July 27, 2012 at 3:20 pm #

        Hi Jennifer – perhaps if you show the florist a few photos of flowers and reception decorations that you like, then they may be able to create something similar or something of the same style as the flowers in the photo/s – but within budget. It won’t be exactly the same but they’ll get an idea of what you like. :)

      • Muzz July 27, 2012 at 3:29 pm #

        Yes!! That’s exactly what I’m afraid of as well, that what I want will cost too much! The florist is the only vendor I have yet to book, I’m even looking at wholesale florists which seem to cost way less than florists. But then again, it’s nice to actually speak to the florist in person as well as have them set up the reception area.
        Gosh…decisions…decisions!! hehe

    • ModernWeddingBlog July 27, 2012 at 3:22 pm #

      Hi Muzz,

      Hawaii – the perfect place for a flower filled wedding! My advice is to take your florist’s advice but let them know your budget. I hope it’s beautiful. Rhonda.

  2. Krystle July 28, 2012 at 6:34 pm #

    The best thing I did was Hire a Stylist. She is amazing. Answers all my questions and given me so much direction. My flower budget was halved through her as everything is wholesale. Over 100 bunches of flowers! She is doing all of the styling and will be there on the day and cleaning up the day after and I actually saved money by hiring her rather than doing it all myself. Don’t discount having a stylist get some quotes and see where you stand.

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